Well, Sophie turned 3 in December, and I was sure hoping that she'd be completely day-time potty trained by then. If you have had any experience training stubborn toddlers, please read on and give me your input. At this point we are out of solutions except to just wait and hope.
We started talking about the potty and practicing sitting on the potty a long time ago, probably last Feb. or March, right after she turned 2. At first she was TERRIFIED of the potty, and cried if we tried to make her sit on it. Then we got a potty chair and, voila, problem solved.
She started going pee in the potty at random times, always prompted by us to go. She never asked to go on her own and always said no if we asked if she needed to go.
The only times she went #2 in the potty is if she was constipated (a frequent problem back then) and I could tell she needed to go. I would sit her on there, and she would cry because it hurt and also because she wanted to go in her diaper. This may be the cause of her not wanting to go #2 in the potty now.
We eliminated the constipation problem long ago. She now goes about every day, but never at predictable times. It is always a different time of day. She always comes to tell us about going and asks for a clean diaper. We always say, "Sophie, no poo poo in the diaper. You have to go in the potty." And then she often repeats it back to us. But she still always poops in her diaper/panties. We have been using some of our cloth diapers as substitutes for pull ups. It is too hard to clean up a #2 mess in panties. Ugh! Try getting them off of a toddler without getting it everywhere!
As for #1, I take her to the potty when she gets up, before lunch, after nap, and a couple more times in the evening before bed. She usually goes every time, and so she stays dry all day. She, however, ALWAYS resists going to the bathroom to go. "Sophie, it is time to go to the potty. Do you need to go peepee?" "No! I don't want to go to the potty!" Sometimes it takes a lot of coaxing and sometimes only a little, but eventually she goes with us.
If left to her own choices, she will just pee in her panties. She won't go in the potty unless we tell her it is time to go there. She knows she isn't supposed to. She just doesn't care. After she goes on herself, she doesn't like it, and wants to get cleaned up, but she'll just do it again the next time. So, she is staying dry all day in panties/diapers, but she is not technically potty-trained since she won't go by herself!
We have tried fruit snacks, other candy, sticker chart, rewards of all kinds. Nothing motivates her. I am hesitant to discipline her over it because I want to keep the experience positive. I want her to WANT to do it.
What should we do?
The only strategy I have now is to potty train Sally and hope that seeing sister do it motivates Sophie. Sally wants to go to the potty but has never actually had success. She tells me, "I want to go pee pee in the potty." But this is only after she has just gone in her diaper. We just keep letting her sit on it and hope one day she has some success!
If you can relate to either Sophie or Sally's potty training predicaments, let me know what you tried!